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29 March 2010

Mekong Circle “Return To Laos” Tour Organizer Dies

Anoma Sengchandavong died February 6, 2010 in Vientiane, Laos at the age of 34.


Who was Anoma whose voice I first heard over the phone in New York City sometime in December 2007? Sambaidee, I said, you were highly recommended by a close Lao friend who can help me organize a tour in Laos for a group of Filipinos residing in the USA. Oh yes, the soft disembodied voice replied from Vientiane, I have been told about your group from my elderly relatives who mentioned your hospital here where many of you used to work.

His English was good and I was encouraged. My research for a reputable, dependable tour agency turned up close to 20 Vientiane-based companies. I had no clue whom to pick. Their pretty websites were no basis. My queries via email returned mangled English responses and those I promptly scratched off from the list. If I had to lead some 30 to 50 people to trust a tour agent with their Social Security money and aging health, intelligible communications was vital.

And so Anoma and I embarked on a cross- Pacific Ocean exchange that stretched over 10 months via email and phone calls. His calling card said he was the Reservation Supervisor for Indocruise Ltd., a company not even on my list. (I learned later that Indocruise is one of a few companies specializing in river cruises on the Mekong, and not land tours. The boats are very long, narrow barges, with three to four cabins, that sail between Houie Say and Luang Prabang. Cabins are exquisitely outfitted; water-side dining areas glisten with mahogany colors; customers live aboard for days. Needless to say, rates were too overboard for Mekong Circle fixed income members.)

Anoma understood that our group was not his usual moneyed European cruise clientele. He scaled down the rates for our tour. He was patient with my most mundane and insistent queries (What’s the menu at the Tam Nak Lao Restaurant for our November 13 lunch? How long is the bus trip from the Dokmaideng Hotel to the Buddha Park ? Will the Talat Sao Market Mall accept credit cards?) With seven years experience in the tour business, and now dealing with someone who knew next to nothing about organizing a tour, he exhibited a laid-back temperament that I should have known is a distinctive trait of the Lao.

As our departure date loomed closer and with still too many loose threads hanging and trepidation knocking, I decided electronic communication was inadequate. It was best to be on the ground with Anoma. My wife Pet and I flew to Vientiane from New York in August 2008. For six days we scouted the itinerary that Anoma had laid out for our five-day tour in November. It included side trips to Luang Prabang, a three-hour (roundtrip on the Mekong to the Pak Ou Caves, visits to two villages specializing in Lao-lao whiskey and textile weaving. It was during that period that the disembodied voice and the digital email messages assumed substance. For one thing, he looked 18 not 30, fair-skinned and willowy. For another, he also spoke French. And had a college degree. And was as skinny as I am.

By the time we left, we gained a warm friend. I left unsaid the panicky times I suffered when my messages were left unanswered for too long, prompting some unkind admonitions on my part. A Barong Tagalog I gave him should soothe any bruised feelings. He was overwhelmed with the gift, surely something he will not find at the Talat Sao or anyplace else. At the outdoor welcome reception garden party in front of the Philippine Embassy, he wore it proudly – only one of two Lao males in the Philippine attire out of about 80 guests.

The day I departed Vientiane November 16, 2008, the last one to leave among the 27 members in the group, he drove me to the airport. Kop chai, kop chai I said for all his help and told him how much our group savored beyond words an experience they will treasure.

Please give this scarf to your wife, he said, packaged in an elegant box. I hope she likes it. She can wear it with a long evening black dress to show off the weave design. Please send me some pictures.

For some reason that I now deeply regret I was not able to.

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By Pete Fuentecilla

06 July 2009

Oscar Frias; hydrologist, field engineer

Mekong Circle International lost another member. OSCAR FRIAS, who was diagnosed with a Cerebro Vascular Accident (CVA) last February 27, 1991, died on March 26, 2009 due to kidney failure complications. As a CVA patient, he was confined at the Trillium Health Hospital in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada for 15 years. In compliance with his final wish and through his insistence, he spent the last 4 years of his life in his hometown of Basista, Pangasinan, Philippines. He was laid to rest on April 5, 2009 in Basista, next to his father's grave. He was 66 years old. Oscar was a graduate of the University of the East, Department of Engineering.

Oscar is survived by his wife, Connie dela Pena Frias and three children (Janet, Robert and Oscar, Jr.). Although affiliated with USAID (Connie was the Administrative Associate in the General Service Office), both have strong OBI connections. Lydia Palma sung at their wedding on December 30, 1967 with Father Matt Menger as the officiating priest, and Pol Custodio serving as the altar assistant. Connie is a second cousin of Jojo Pablo.

Oscar worked as an Hydrologist in the Pamong Project of the U.S. Bureau of Reclamation in Vientiane, Laos for a year, before serving as Field Engineer in the Agriculture Division of USAID/Laos. When Laos fell to the communist, both went to Iran - Oscar in December 1975 and Connie, who took the last Air France flight out of Vientiane in April 1976. In Iran, they were hired by Fluor Corporation; Oscar as the Field Engineer and Connie, the Executive Assistant to the Manager of the Ahwaz Office of Flour Iran, Ltd. After 4 years, they moved to Abu Dhabi, UAE. Once again, Oscar served as the Field Engineer and Connie was at the front office of Fluor Continental, Ltd.

Connie joined the United Nations in New York in 1984, while Oscar stayed in Dhahran, Saudi Arabia with Fluor Arabia, Ltd. In 1986, Oscar joined Connie in the U.S. and worked in the Engineering Department of a hospital in Paramus, New Jersey. Two years later, Oscar moved to Canada as an immigrant and had their 3 children later joined them. Connie continued working for the United Nations in New York and commuted every so often to be with the family in Ontario, Canada and vice-versa. The commute from New York to Canada became more often after Oscar suffered a stroke. She brave the New York thruway for a one-way 10 hours trip in her van every other weekend to be with Oscar and her children, making sure that his medical needs and documentation were properly attended to. While confined in the hospital with CVA, a memorable event happened to Oscar which he would proudly relate to his relatives and friends in the Philippines over and over again. On May 16, 1993, a Judge of the City of Mississauga, Ontario personally visited him at the Trillium Health Hospital and after a session of Canadian History, conferred on Oscar his Canadian citizenship.

When Oscar returned to the Philippines, his medical expenses went up and Connie came out of her retirement to work for the United Nations again. She accepted UN mission assignments in dangerous countries for more pay for the sustenance of her husband. She is presently on assignment in Kosovo. If you want to get in touch with her, she can be reached at frias9596@rogers.com.

(Obituary by Dr. Raul de Jesus)

21 June 2009

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General news

-Consul Raul Dado of Philippine Embassy, Vientiane, moving on

In memoriam
-Oscar Frias, hydrologist, field engineer
-Bert de los Reyes, our "kuya" in Australia
-Vitoy Naranjo, Pioneering OB leader
-Maximo Soliven, former publisher, Philippine Star
-Rodolfo Sanchez, Philippine Consul in Laos in 1960s
-Isagani Bautista, pioneering architect
-Rose Marie del Rio Ocampo, former Operation Brotherhood social worker
-Amor Valiente-Cook, former Operation Brotherhood nurse
-Celso Orense, founding member of Filipino Laos groups
-Mario Galman, former Philippine ambassador
-Sergio Lapitan, former Operation Brotherhood photographer
-Salvador "Sas" Sayong, former Operation Brotherhood accountant
-Bonifacio Gillego, former Operation Brotherhood executive director

Features
-Journey back to Laos
-Former OB agriculturist assists immigrant farmers in Hawaii
-Where have all our nurses gone?
-Search for doctor

Other news
-Collection of Peace-keeping Inspired Poetry, book by Connie Frias